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� F E B R U A R Y 2 O 1 5
Love is Not Needy
When you reject and abandon
yourself, you create an empty
hole inside that must be fi lled
by the love of others.
Love is Not Conditional
Love is given freely. When
you offer affection with strings
attached, it isn't love--it's control.
Love Does Not Give
In Order to Get
Love isn't caretaking or giving
just to get in return. Love doesn't
attempt to control by making
others obligated to you.
Love is Not Harsh, Mean,
Hurtful or Judgmental
Love isn't manipulative. It
doesn't lie, cheat or use others
for its own ends. It doesn't try to
control with cruelty or criticism.
Love is not judgmental or hurtful
of yourself or others.
Love is Not Indulgent
Love does not enable others
to be hateful toward you or them-
selves, nor does it support
you in being hateful to yourself
or others.
Love is Not an Emotion
This is easy to see when you
think about the fact that love is long
lasting, while emotions are fl eet-
ing. Love brings forth many rich
and varied emotions, which may be
why the natural force called "love"
gets confused with emotions.
Love is Not an Addiction
Only a false form of love can
be an addiction, but there are a
number of those around and they
can be very destructive. Addiction
can waste your life and maybe
the lives of others.
Love is Not Sex
Without some form of healthy real
love, sexual relationships tend not to
be long lasting and often disappear.
Love is Not Attraction
Attraction helps us move toward
What Love Is
Not
I
n order to fi nd true love, it helps to understand what
love is and what love is not. Much has been said and
written about what love is, so, just to be clear, here
is a short list of the things love is not:
er.
True
Love
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