spect.
type of respect is that which is due to
all people because they are human be-
ings created in the image of God Him-
self. As such, people are worthy of at-
tention and consideration.
and
bility or other positive qualities.
versus "giving" our attention or respect.
their position or role. Respect is given as
an acknowledgement of their authority
(e.g., policeman, judge, supervisor), or ac-
knowledgement of their position in an in-
stitution (e.g., manager, pastor). Regard is
given to them regardless of our relation-
ship with them or whether we think they
have earned their position or are doing a
good job. It is an objective respect, an im-
personal response to the person.
earned our regard and consideration,
because of our experience with them.
We recognize their greatness in certain
those areas. This can be a
spouse, a trusted friend,
skilled business leader or a
spiritual leader. It is a subjec-
tive respect, and involves a
great deal of trust.
strate respect, especially for
persons in roles or positions
of authority. Even though
people are more casual and
informal today, there is still a
place for the use of titles.
graciously give because you are a polite,
considerate, respectful member of soci-
ety.
that the two of you can work things
out. You must begin with the only one
whose actions you have any control
over: yourself.
focus on your relationship with God. Is
it what it should be? Time spent talking
to Him, looking for His guidance in the
Bible and seeking private counsel with
a Christian you respect can assist you
to strengthen your personal walk with
Christ. In the process, areas of your life
parent to you. Regardless of the impact
on your marriage, deepening your
bond with Christ will be an invaluable
experience.
much work. Make the commitment to
give it your all. Then, make a plan to do
so. Consider some of the following
ideas:
and coffee, and at a quiet place that al-
lows for ease of conversation. Tell your
wife you want to give her your full at-
tention and hear what she has to say.
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Whether she does or not, go and share
your concerns with the counselor.
relationships, He doesn't do so against
our will. The heart must be open and
willing for God to heal. Continue doing
your part to be open to any changes
or directions God reveals. And pray for
your wife, that she will do so as well.
title will not make me respect an
individual any more. Is there any
information to clarify the use of
impersonal titles?
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